Once there was a man who had 3 daughters and was a single parent
to his children. One morning he asked his oldest daughter, Sonia, to do the breakfast
dishes before going to school. Not realizing that she was already running late
and facing too many tardy notices, he was stunned by her reaction. She burst
into profuse tears. Again, misinterpreting the motive behind the outburst,
assuming that she was merely trying to get out of an unpleasant chore, he
demanded that she dry her tears and get back to work immediately. She
reluctantly obeyed him, but her anger could be clearly heard in the careless
clanking of the dishes in the sink, she turned back to her father and stared
sullenly out the window. Usually the man use to take advantage of the
uninterrupted time to spend with his children while driving them to school by
teaching poetry or religious verses. However that morning there was no songs- only
deathly, stubborn silence.
The man dropped his daughter, mumbled a good bye and moved to
office. He tried to work but couldn’t concentrate, all he could see was his
daughter’s scared, tear-stained face as she hesitantly climbed out of the car
to face her teachers and classmates. The man began to realize that his timing
had gone wrong and with the passage of the day he began to feel remorseful. So
he decided to say SORRY to his daughter and couldn’t wait till suppertime to
apologize. So he took permission from the school to take his daughter for lunch
and was astonished to see the surprise on her face. He led her by her arm
through the corridor and as the doors banged behind them, he turned towards his
daughter and said, “Sonia I am sorry. I am so very sorry! It’s not that I
shouldn’t have asked you to help out at home, but I had no right on it this
morning without any previous warning. I upset you at a time when you most
needed my love and support- just before you went to school. And I let you go
without saying ‘I love you’. I was wrong. Please forgive me.”
Sonia put her arms around her father’s neck and hugged him and
said “Oh, Dad, of course I forgive you. I love you too.”
often it happens with my sons, and often it happens.....i'm sorry
ReplyDeletethis cycle has to happen, rage, forgive, start again to face life
it's a fundamental training with their future family and sons