20 Ways To Overcome Negative Thoughts...

1. Realize that you only hurt yourself with negative thoughts. Don’t let them trick you.

2. Decide that you will live your day with happiness and not let negative thoughts steal it.

3. Look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I’m a positive person. I won’t let negative thoughts control me. I’m a winner in life.”

4. Read positive quotes.

5. Never say negative words in your conversation.

6. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive. For example, instead of thinking “This problem is too difficult” think “This problem is cool and challenging”.

7. If you think negatively about someone, remember positive things about that person. Shift your attention to the positive side.

8. Smile. It’s more difficult to think negatively when you are smiling.

9. Walk and act confidently. Good body language helps you have good thoughts.

10. Pray or meditate. Spiritual peace and calmness is among the most effective ways to overcome negative thoughts.

11. Gather with positive people. Be careful not to choose the wrong people or the situation will only get worse.

12. Take a nap so that you will wake up with a fresh mind.

13. Read an inspiring book. Spiritual books often do well.

14. Go out and appreciate the beauty of the world around you.

15. Sing a cheerful song.

16. Make yourself comfortable with failure. Failure is the stepping stone to success, so don’t be afraid to fail.

17. Have realistic expectation. Accept the fact that people could make mistakes since nobody is perfect.

18. If you think negatively about a situation, decide that you won’t give up even if the worst happens. Prove yourself to be a tough opponent. You are a winner.

19. Accept yourself and be comfortable in who you are. You can’t be perfect but neither can anyone else.

20. Help someone. Shift the focus away from yourself and do good to others.

Don’t Be Serious, Be Sincere...

Don’t just have career of academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order. There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.

Life is one of those races in nursery school where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same is with life where health and relationships are the marble.

Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.

One thing about nurturing the spark – don’t take life seriously. Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up?

It’s ok, bunk a few classes, scoring low in couple of papers, goof up a few interviews, take leave from work, Enjoy with your friends, fall in love, little fights with your loved ones. We are people, not programmed devices.

13 Best Moments In Life.......

1. To fall in love.

2. To clear your last exam.

3. To wake up and realize it’s still possible to Sleep.

4. To get a phone call saying class is cancelled.

5. To feel butterflies every time you see that person.

6. To see an old friend again and to feel that things have not changed.

7. To touch the fingers of newly born child.

8. Speaking to an old friend on Sunday evening.

9. Waiting for a call or message from your loved one when you are alone.

10. Walking alone on a silent road at night and listening to your favorite songs.

11. Riding on a highway while it’s raining.

12. Speaking to the special one on phone while standing in front of the mirror.

Haha... Feels just awesome.. :)

13. And the last one is 'right now'... while reading this there was constant smile 

On your face... Which was one of the best moments I believe..! 

Keep smiling, It really suits u...! :)

Choose Happiness…!

Be Optimistic! Develop a positive way of thinking. That way you can keep focused on your goals. Keep yourself active. Look for exciting activities, sports, music, painting, playing an instrument or some kind of dance whichever makes you feel happy and they will surely be an excellent happiness booster for you. When we do activities that we like more it will certainly keep us excited.

Enjoy and spend time with nature. Nature has the power to heel us and will help us to stay happy and energetic. A long walk in the woods, sweet fragrance of flowers will keep our mind healthy.
Be close to your family. It is always more gratifying to be with our near and dear ones. It’s better to be in a social environment rather than being lonely. Love is first priority, showing some love to others is very gratifying. If you give love you will be loved, so if you want to feel love from others then give love back first.

Develop your sense of humor, take life lightly and get some laughs….that way you will always feel happy. Value every single moment you experience. Enjoy Life and be grateful for what you receive and give more back.

Come out of the worries and hurt feelings. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. Forget about those things that worry you. Do not dedicate time or energy to things that have not yet occurred or things that might never occur.

Above all Be Yourself, letting other people know you exactly as who you are will make you feel free and will make you happy. And accept people as they are. Every human being is unique in a way and has both plus and minus with them. Just count on the good qualities. They will keep you stay positive.

10 Ways To Be Happy...

Happiness is an unconditional emotion. Sometimes we are brought up to believe that we need a certain income or a certain size house or a certain number of friends, or look a certain way to be happy. These are all illusions and tricks of the ego. We ARE unconditional joy and happiness. It is natural for us to express this joy. It is our main guidance mechanism that allows us as souls to evolve and express ourselves in human form, and have an enjoyable journey.

Below are 10 ways that you can cultivate the feeling of happiness in your day to day life.

1. Be thankful in every moment for all the good in your life.

2. Focus on doing what you love and enjoy.

3. Only relate to and interact with family, friends and acquaintances that are in your best and highest good.

4. Receive, accept, allow and keep what you want and like with gratitude.

5. Trust and follow your intuitions.

6. Believe in yourself.

7. Do what you can to achieve your goals and be successful.

8. Give and receive love with the people in your life.

9. Be flexible in your thoughts, meditate to gain mental clarity and focus.

10. Exercise each day and eat all the right nutrients for your body.

The Carpenter

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer/contractor of his plans to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get by.

The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end his career.

When the carpenter finished his work and the builder came to inspect the house, the contractor handed the front-door key to the carpenter. "This is your house," he said, "my gift to you."

What a shock! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had to live in the home he had built none too well.

So it is with us. We build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up less than the best. At important points we do not give the job our best effort. 

Then with a shock we look at the situation we have created and find that we are now living in the house we have built. If we had realized, we would have done it differently.

Think of yourself as the carpenter. Think about your house. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Build wisely. It is the only life you will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day more, that day deserves to be lived graciously and with dignity. The plaque on the wall says, "Life is a do-it-yourself project."

Who could say it more clearly? Your life today is the result of your attitudes and choices in the past. Your life tomorrow will be the result of your attitudes and the choices you make today.

Life is like a KITE..

Father is flying a kite. His son is watching him carefully. After some time son says “Dad. Because of the string the kite is not able to go any further higher. "
Hearing this, the father smiles and breaks the string. 

The kite goes higher after breaking of the thread and then shortly after that it comes and falls on the ground. 

The child is very dejected and sad.

The father sits next to him and calmly explains

" Son, in life we reach a certain level of prosperity and then we feel that there are certain things in our life that are not letting us grow any further like Home, Family, Culture Friendship etc. We feel we want to be free from those strings which we believe are stopping us from going higher.

But, remember son. Going higher is easier than staying at the higher level.
And friends, family and culture etc. are the things that will help us stay stable at the high heights that we have achieved. If we try to break away from those strings our condition will be similar to the kite."

Moral

" Never go away from home, culture, family, friends and relationships as they help keep you stable while you are flying high." 

Our Apple Tree

A long time ago, there was a huge apple tree. A little boy loved to come and play around it every day. He climbed to the treetop, ate the apples, and took a nap under the shadow.

He loved the tree and the tree loved to play with him. Time went by, the little boy had grown up and he no longer played around the tree every day.

One day, the boy came back to the tree and he looked sad.

“Come and play with me”, the tree asked the boy.

“I am no longer a kid, I do not play around trees anymore” the boy replied.

“I want toys. I need money to buy them.”

“Sorry, but I do not have money, but you can pick all my apples and sell them. So, you will have money.”

The boy was so excited. He grabbed all the apples on the tree and left happily. The boy never came back after he picked the apples. The tree was sad.

One day, the boy who now turned into a man returned and the tree was excited.

“Come and play with me” the tree said.

“I do not have time to play. I have to work for my family. We need a house for shelter. Can you help me?”

“Sorry, but I do not have any house. But you can chop off my branches to build your house.” So the man cut all the branches of the tree and left happily. The tree was glad to see him happy but the man never came back since then. The tree was again lonely and sad.

One hot summer day, the man returned and the tree was delighted.

“Come and play with me!” the tree said.

“I am getting old. I want to go sailing to relax myself. Can you give me a boat?” said the man.

“Use my trunk to build your boat. You can sail far away and be happy.”

So the man cut the tree trunk to make a boat. He went sailing and never showed up for a long time.

Finally, the man returned after many years. “Sorry, my boy. But I do not have anything for you anymore. No more apples for you”, the tree said. “No problem, I do not have any teeth to bite” the
man replied.

“No more trunk for you to climb on.” “I am too old for that now” the man said. “I really cannot give you anything, the only thing left is my dying roots,” the tree said with tears.

“I do not need much now, just a place to rest. I am tired after all these years,” the man replied.

“Good! Old tree roots are the best place to lean on and rest, come sit down with me and rest.” The man sat down and the tree was glad and smiled with tears.

This is a story of everyone. The tree is like our parents. When we were young, we loved to play with our Mum and Dad. When we grow up, we leave them; only come to them when we need something or when we are in trouble. No matter what, parents will always be there and give everything they could just to make you happy.

You may think the boy is cruel to the tree, but that is how all of us treat our parents. We take them for granted; we don’t appreciate all they do for us, until it’s too late.

In Life..

In life there are people that will hurt us and cause us pain,
but we must learn to forgive and forget and not hold grudges.

In life there are mistakes we will make,
but we must learn from our wrongs and grow from them.

In life there are regrets we will have to live with, 
but we must learn to leave the past behind and realize it is something we can't change.

In life there are people we will loose forever and can't have back,
but we must learn to let go and move on.

In life there are going to be obstacles that will cause interference,
but we must learn to overcome these challenges and grow stronger.

In life there are fears that will hold us back from what we want,
but we must learn to fight them with the courage from within.

Happiness Is What You Are, Not What You Have...

This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning.

So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness.

The counselor called over the old lady who cleaned the office floors.

The counselor then said to the rich lady "I'm going to ask Mary here to tell u how she found happiness. All I want u to do is listen to her."

So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story:

"Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later my only son was killed by a car. I had nobody. I had nothing left. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life. Then one evening a little kitten followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the kitten in. I got some milk, and the kitten licked the plate clean. Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and, for the first time in months, I smiled.

Then I stopped to think, if helping a little kitten could make me smile, may be doing something for people could make me happy.

So, the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbor who was sick in bed.

Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy.

Today, I don't know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do.
I've found happiness, by giving it to others."

When she heard this, the rich lady cried. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things which money cannot buy.

"The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are; but on how happy others can be because of you..."

Happiness is not a destination, it's a journey.

Happiness is not tomorrow, it is now.

Happiness is not dependency, it is a decision.

Happiness is what you are, not what you have..

Once upon a time ….

A very poor man lived with his wife. One day, his wife, who had very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed.

The man felt very sorry and said no. He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken.

She did not insist on her request.

The man went to work and passed by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife.

He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to his wife.

He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short haircut. She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band.

Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love.

Moral of the story: To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love, that is everything.

Story of Four Candles

The four candles burns slowly. The ambiance was so soft you could hear them talking.

The first one said, “I am Peace! however nobody can keep me lit. I believe, I will go out.”

It’s flame rapidly diminishes and goes out completely.

The second one says, “I am Faith! Most of all, I am no longer indispensable, so it doesn’t make any sense that I stay lit any longer.”

When it finished talking, a breeze softly blew on it putting it out.

Sadly, the third candle spoke in its turn: “I am love! I haven’t got the strength to stay lit. People put me aside and don’t understand my importance. They even forget to love those who are nearest to them.”

And waiting no longer it goes out.

Suddenly…

A child enters the room and sees three candles not burning.

“Why are you not burning? You are supposed to stay lit till the end.”

Saying this, the child begins to cry.

Then the fourth candle said: “Don’t be afraid, while I am still burning we can re-light the other candles, I am Hope!”

With shining eyes, the child took the candle of hope and lit the other candles.

THE FLAME OF HOPE SHOULD NEVER GO OUT FROM YOUR LIFE.

…and that each of us can maintain Peace, Faith, Love and Hope!!!

LESSON IN LIFE..

 

A wise man sat in the audience and cracked a joke. 
Everybody laughs like crazy.

After a moment, he cracked the same joke again.
This time, less people laughed.

He cracked the same joke again and again.
When there is no laughter in the crowd,

he smiled and said:
You can't laugh at the same joke again and again,
but why do you keep crying over the same thing
over and over again?